Conversation 2 – Healthy Marriage Habits
Do to others, as you would have them do to you.
-Luke 6:31
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
-I Corinthians 13:4-7
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
gentleness and self-control.
-Galatians 5:23
From Couples . . .
“I know my husband better than anyone else. I know what he likes and love it when I see that twinkle in his eyes and smile on his face.”
“I have found that the golden rule is great, but my wife does not always feel loved when I treat her as I want to be treated. I have learned to love her in ways that she wants.”
Questions for Couple Sharing
- How do you show your love for each other in little ways and big ways?
- How do you divide tasks and household chores?
- Do you have an endearing term or "pet name" for your spouse?
- Is there a personality difference in your spouse you have learned to respect and affirm?
- How often do you say or demonstrate, "I love you!"? What are some examples?
- What was one of your favorite dating or wedding anniversary celebrations?
- What was one of your favorite birthday, graduation, or promotion celebrations?
A Step Beyond the Mentoring Conversation
Make a list of five special things your spouse has done for you. Share your lists with each other and do at least one of the things on the other’s list before the next mentoring conversation. An option would be to share three things you would like for your spouse to do for you that are ways of demonstrating love to you.
Help your spouse by giving him or her a positive target to aim for. . . "I really like it when you __________________________."
